HIPPY tip for May
“The only people who don’t make mistakes are the people who don’t do anything at all.” Joyce Brothers
It is okay to let your children Fail!
It is a normal to want your child to always be happy, but it is important to know that it really is okay for your child to struggle, make a mistake and not always win. This is because it starts the journey of developing resilience or the ability to bounce back. It may be difficult, but it is important to support and guide your child rather than do what they need to learn to do for themselves.
So, TEACH your child to see mistakes as,
Opportunities to learn, and
Steppingstones to success.
HIPPY is about creating positive and fun learning experiences for children, not about mastery of a skill. Parents can use the HIPPY 3C’s technique to respond in a positive manner to their child’s efforts.
1. Confirm—when a child gives the correct answer to a question or problem, the parent or carer repeats the answer back to the child.
2. Complete—When the child responds with a partial answer, the parent or care repeats what the child has said adding the missing information
3. Correct— if the child has no response, says they don’t know or gives an incorrect response, instead of telling them they are wrong, the parent or carer simply responds by speaking the correct answer.
Using the 3C’s allows children to feel safe to have a go, make mistakes and feel confident with their learning. In the wise words of Ann Landers, "It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings."